A great sermon from Pastor Kong! and the book which originally written by Gary Chapman surely is a great way to improve our loving abilities.
I shall summarize what I’ve learnt… enjoy!
All human beings needs to love and feel love as a basic emotional needs. You can have all the money in the world, but if there is no love, you are just empty.
Everyone of us has a love tank. When our love tank runs low, its time to fill it up, else our life will be miserable.
But first, we must discover our love languages on which that we most needed of. There are only 5, therefore it is not difficult to learn.
The reason why so many divorces ends up is because partners fail to communicate with the right love languages, and ends up empty love tanks of each partners, and in need of more love they try to find else where. The 5 languages not only applies for marriage, it also applies in relationships with friends and families.
Below are the 5 love languages:
1.) Words of affirmation:
- Words like “you’re more handsome than brat pitt”, “you’re more beautiful than etc etc”, “you’re so attractive to me”, “you’re the best!” builds one’s self-esteem, thus they will feel affirmed, accepted and loved. As a result, people who speaks this love language contributes to their love tank.
2.) Quality Time
- Not as in quantity, but spending quality time in showing sympathetic listening, and not providing solution to the problem for the person. Spending quality time together is very important, doing the things that mutually enjoys marks the importance of time that could not be attain back anymore.
3.) Receiving Gifts
- People who speaks this love language is the easiest to communicate and learn. They will feel very loved when they receive gifts. If you are not a generous giver, it could be a challenge for you. However, in being physically there whenever the person needs you is the most powerful love you can show to people who falls in this category, which is the gift of self.
4.) Acts of Service
- Simple chores expresses love for people in this category. Things like making bed for the person, cooking, sweeping and tidying up their house / belongings brings affection and appreciation, and love felt of course. Take note that this should not be done out of obligation, but willingness as a way of love expression.
5.) Physical touch
- An offer of hug for example may be better than giving a sound advise to the person. People who speaks this language values the physical touch of the person, as a way of communicating secure and being loved.
